Showing posts with label parent. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parent. Show all posts

Sunday, 6 November 2011

Don't be afraid to trust your parental instincts

Around the start of this year I started feeling concerned about my sons (7yr) hearing. The usual "huh", "what", high volume of tv and ignoring us when we spoke.

I took him to the doctor and got him checked. No visible problem could be seen. and he responded to doctor without hesitation. The doctor also mentioned that it is more usual for hearing problems to be picked up by teachers at school.

After a few weeks I was still concerned, even though I was being told by friends/family it was probably just selective hearing.

I took him back to doctor and requested a referral.
The referral had a hearing test, which showed that he has a hearing loss from fluid behind the ear.

That is now being treated. The tv volume has been reduced, the selective hearing is still there but at leat I know he can hear me. Most important of all is the fact that when out he is more confident as he is hearing what is being said or questions asked of him.

Monday, 24 October 2011

Just a job?

We went to the school parents' evening last week, keen interest in our son who is in year 4, just transferred to junior school.

We went in, shared smiles and handshakes with his class teacher.  She told us how our son was doing, in terms of teacher assessment and placing him in the 1234/abc brackets.  If your are a parent you will know what I mean.  The generalised target for children in class is 2a/b (from memory) for this year.  Last year he was 3c in english and above that in maths. (this truely is not a my son is good blog, bear with me)
We do not think that the weekly, English and Maths, work he brings home is hard enough for him, not pushing him enough. He finds it very easy. Knocks thorugh it in 20mins and gets top marks from teacher.

Ahh, yes back to the parents evening....
Us: "Do you give harder work to those more able in the class?"
She: "No, I give same work to all. I have 30 kids in the class, some who cannot even string a sentence together"
Us: "Fair enough, but our son can and the work being set is too easy and not challenging him. We have problems getting him to do homework as he is not interested. What is top grade he can be assessed to in this year?"
She: "Well it is level 4 but I would have to give level 4 work and I have 30 kids in the class."
Us: "Errr...why don't you differentiate the work? Do you differentiate the work?"
She: "No, do not differentiate the work"
Us: "Can you send him home with level 4 work so that we know the level and we can work with him"

Some more small talk around the work and we say our goodbyes.
Next day he brings home level 4 assessment work along with his normal homework.

Now this is not a piece about the teacher but rather about the system in which she works.

She has a class of 30 children, some who are above the target for the year already and some who are below target for the year.  The focus is going on those children who are below target to bring them up to target and the ones who are currently above are not pushed as they are unlikely to fall below.

The job pays the bills and keeps a roof over her head.  She will be judged on how many of the children meet the target not on how many who are exceeding the target exceed further.
My feeling is it is the systems fault because what is reported is how many meet the target irrespective of their background.

So we will keep on pushing him at home and pushing to change things at school.  Don't consider myself a pushy parent just doing ensuring the best for my children.  She is doing the job required within the system and at the end of the day it is just and job and it pays her bills.

Yes, I get annoyed but it is tempered by the fact that it is just a job
Are some jobs staffed by so called "Angels" or just people who want to do a good job? I err on the side of the latter, which do not mean that the former does not exist, just a lot fewer and they are often working against the system rather than with it.

Sunday, 22 May 2011

Boy done well

Eldest had PSP back yesterday after an extended period of enforced parental confiscation. He played, he studied, he played, he talked, ate meals and went to bed, all without shouting and complaining. That is how it should be.

Sunday, 8 May 2011

Pre teenage hormones

Realised this weekend that there is at teenager inside my seven year old boy.
Some how does not seem right that my little baby has been taken over.

Do not cross the road without looking, please do you're home-work, come to table for dinner are all phrases guaranteed at the moment to ensure that I am wrong for some reason.
So after a day with this "teenager", he just as suddenly switched back to my sweet child again.

I am realising that I have to adapt a lot quicker to my son growing up than I thought I would.

To cap it all, could not get him to do his home work writing over the weekend, but he gets up this morning and finishes 2xA4 sides in twenty minutes.

Oh how I am looking forward to teenage years (NOT!)

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